It is the demand for perfection that stops progress. Then we get to be frustrated and point to how very hard we tried, and we are victims once again. The harder we try, the worse it gets. The secret is in learning how to tolerate imperfection. I am not even close. I want what I […]
The reverberating NO! At some point in our young lives something happens to which we respond with a deep, powerful energetic NO! This something could be your mother walks out of the room just as you are reaching out to her or a pleasurable experience with a parent is met with some violence or inappropriate
As I sit in my comfortable, beautiful home, where my bills are paid and I am in relatively good health, I am present to the seemingly unfairness of life. What has me contemplating this today is the fact that my 45-year-old cousin died this week. She drank herself to death, pure and simple. Ironically, the
The many, sometimes conflicting, messages we tell ourselves are a huge stumbling block on the road to health and well-being. One voice is screaming for cake, another for sleep, yet another demands that you look a particular way which would require more exercise. Then there are the societal demands, family, banks, bills, on and on.
Whether we realize it or not, we tell ourselves a story about whom we believe ourselves to be and then live into that story. Our brains work through images and we literally see ourselves as being a particular way and then take actions in accordance with these images. We believe what we are because we
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The human condition is a challenge. Our brains are designed such that survival is our number one instinct. We are, whether we realize it or not, always on the lookout for a threat. When something threatening happens, this experience is hardwired into our brains. This is not necessarily a memory per say, but a neurological
We are born wide open. There are no blocks to our experience. We see, hear, smell and touch everything with an innocence that has yet to be marred with judgment. At some point our brains register an event that is incongruent with this open, expanded state. We are shocked, physically, mentally or emotionally. There is
We are not our negatives thoughts, beliefs, or attitudes. We are not even our negative actions. We are all, each and every one, so much more. The negativity in our lives is ours to transform. This is the gift, the opportunity that life can be if we choose to allow ourselves this freedom. The more
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I am the mother, daughter, sister, wife, lover of heroin addicts. This does not make me an expert, just a person with life experience. The death of Philip Seymour Hoffman has hit hard. The usual human reaction is to try to determine “why.” If we knew we could avoid it next time. As if there
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Life is sacred, but we do not treat it as such. We frequently war with life. We believe that because we do not get, have, experience , exactly what we want or think we should, that something is wrong. Terribly, awfully wrong. The guilt and shame that this something wrong could be us is too
