Picture yourself at three years old. Your heart is still mostly wide open. You are filled with a need to express yourself creatively and with tremendous love. Your eyes fall on some colorful paints and you are giddy with delight. There are not even words for the excitement that is racing through your entire being. […]
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Pain. We all shy away from it, of course we do. Physical, emotional, psychological and even spiritual pain cause tremendous fear and resistance. Pain comes in and we go out – anywhere to avoid, or at least lessen the pain. We are afraid it will never go away. We are afraid it will get worse.
This Mother’s Day, as every one preceding, I was overwhelmed by the demand for consumer participation. The pressure in this country to have a great _____ special day is great, and I never seem to win. I wonder who does. I admit, I start at a disadvantage. My mother killed herself. Strike One against Mother’s
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It is the demand for perfection that stops progress. Then we get to be frustrated and point to how very hard we tried, and we are victims once again. The harder we try, the worse it gets. The secret is in learning how to tolerate imperfection. I am not even close. I want what I
The reverberating NO! At some point in our young lives something happens to which we respond with a deep, powerful energetic NO! This something could be your mother walks out of the room just as you are reaching out to her or a pleasurable experience with a parent is met with some violence or inappropriate
As I sit in my comfortable, beautiful home, where my bills are paid and I am in relatively good health, I am present to the seemingly unfairness of life. What has me contemplating this today is the fact that my 45-year-old cousin died this week. She drank herself to death, pure and simple. Ironically, the
The many, sometimes conflicting, messages we tell ourselves are a huge stumbling block on the road to health and well-being. One voice is screaming for cake, another for sleep, yet another demands that you look a particular way which would require more exercise. Then there are the societal demands, family, banks, bills, on and on.
Whether we realize it or not, we tell ourselves a story about whom we believe ourselves to be and then live into that story. Our brains work through images and we literally see ourselves as being a particular way and then take actions in accordance with these images. We believe what we are because we
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The human condition is a challenge. Our brains are designed such that survival is our number one instinct. We are, whether we realize it or not, always on the lookout for a threat. When something threatening happens, this experience is hardwired into our brains. This is not necessarily a memory per say, but a neurological
We are born wide open. There are no blocks to our experience. We see, hear, smell and touch everything with an innocence that has yet to be marred with judgment. At some point our brains register an event that is incongruent with this open, expanded state. We are shocked, physically, mentally or emotionally. There is
